Boulder in the Road

You want to build a road. There is a boulder in front of you.

You make the plans for your road and take the necessary steps to get those plans moving. You decide where you want the road to go: the direction, the route, the ultimate or hoped-for destination.

You consider which materials you want to use for the road - how you wish the road to look, the cost, its durability and aesthetic qualities.

You also assess the kind of tools of you will need to use, the method of construction you will employ, the logistics of getting the road built.

You imagine the journey you will embark on, the endless possibilities available to you, the potential this road has to lead you to all the wondrous places you've always wanted to go to. You can't wait to get there.

Question: shouldn't you move the boulder out of the way first?

Resolution : Revolution

Resolution
- noun
1. finding a solution to a problem
2. something settled or resolved; the outcome of decision making

Revolution
- noun
1. a procedure or course, as if in a circuit, back to a starting point.

I’m at the stage where reaching a definite outcome has become almost more important than the outcome itself. In recent years I’ve discovered that I am a person who, in regards to a situation that directly involves me, needs to know what’s happening. I just like to be aware. It helps me to understand the situation, deal with it and let it go so I can get on with other things in the meantime. I don’t necessarily need to know in fine detail. To be honest, not always in great detail of any description. Just a general idea of the destination is a minimum, I’d say. Any additional information is much appreciated, but if it relates to someone I know and trust, I’m not such a control freak that I need to direct the action.

Example:

Them: “I’ve got some stuff going on right now that I need to deal with on my own, so I might be off the radar for a few weeks. It’s not personal, this is no reflection on you, I just need a little time and space to do things my own way. As soon as I’m sorted, we’ll catch up.”

Me: OK, fine. If you need me I’m here. If you’d appreciate the odd text message of encouragement or greeting, you got it. If you’d rather I left you to your own devices completely, that’s OK. You don’t need to explain everything now or maybe ever if you really don’t want to. But I’m here if you do and I’d generally like to know at some stage what’s going with you because I care and want to understand you better. When you’re ready, I’m ready.

That’s all I need. Is that too much to ask? Am I on my own with this one? Why do people seem to crave patience and understanding from others and then seem to avoid the little things they need to do to receive it?

My desire for resolve may put me back at the starting point. But if I’m standing at the starting point, at least I know where I stand.