Thursday Thirteen #1: 13 Reasons He's Just Not the Man for You

So, I wanted to write a blog, but didn't really want to write about what has been going on lately, so decided to look for a meme for a little inspiration. The first I found is 'Thursday 13', for which you can make a list of 13 things of your choice, based around any theme you like. Based on the experiences that a few of my friends have been going through recently, the first theme that came to mind was this.

1. When asked what he contributes to your life, you can't think of a single thing. Not a one.

2. You describe his behaviour towards you as 'bullying'.
 
3. He finds ways to Jedi mind-trick you into believing every disagreement you have is your fault.

4. He uses your past against you.

5. You are required to give him 'space' or 'time with the boys', but when you go out without him or have time with the girls, he calls and texts you the whole time, or even insists on coming along.

6. He forgets your birthday, anniversary, Christmas, Valentine's day etc. or remembers them, but thinks that giving you a verbal greeting is sufficient effort.

7. He tells you would look beautiful if you didn't wear your glasses/lost some weight/were made up the way girls in music videos are.

8. He is critical of your friends and family, mainly when they've pointed out that he's not good for you (with good reason).

9. He doesn't trust you (for no reason) and you don't trust him (for several reasons).  Just not trusting each other in any combination is not good.

10. He is banned from certain places. The police know him by name.

11. Your social life has to fit around his drug intake.

12. He breaks up with you by:
     a.) cutting off contact with you without any explanation as to why
     b.) going out with someone else
     c.) not coming home and then telling you not to be there when he finally does.

13. He sleeps with someone else within a day of breaking up with you.


I got stuck for a bit coming up with 13 different reasons, so I asked my friend who has just gone through a break up for a couple of ideas. She came up with a couple I could steal and still have a whole 13 of her own. So here are the Mrs' 13 Reasons He's Just Not the Man for You:

1.) He's breaking up with you.

2.) He says things like, 'I was your muse but you stifled my creative side' - true quote!

3.) He asks u to move out coz he doesn't want to lose any benefits.

4.) Everything is somehow your fault.

5.) When you cry he says, 'I will hug you when u stop crying because I won't reward bad behaviour'.

6.) His plans for the future include taking a year off work so he can explore his creativity and he's done that for every year since he left school.

7.) His friends are available to him 24/7 which means they don't have jobs either.

8.) One day he wants a plumbing business. The next day he is going to be an advertising exec. The day after he is going to design t-shirts. If he doesn't know what he wants in life, don't kid yourself that he knows what he wants in you.

9.) You ask a question and he cuts all contact.

10.) He describes your relationship, as having been a 2 year holiday.

11.) If someone else has a talent, he immediately wants that exact one too, but never does anything.

12.) He asked you to move out and then moaned to you about how hard it is for him living there without you, whilst u became effectively homeless.

13.) He sleeps with his ex and then wants u to console him when she cuts contact with him.